Starting Reception: Tips From a Mum Who’s Been There (Twice!)
If your little one is about to start Reception, you might be feeling a whole mix of emotions: excitement, nerves, pride, and maybe a lump in your throat you weren’t expecting.
I’ve now been through this milestone twice, and while each child is different, I thought I’d share some of the things I learned along the way — little tips that made those first days (and weeks) just a tiny bit smoother for all of us.
1. Take the First-Day Photo Early
We all want that iconic “first day of school” picture — shiny shoes, big smiles, tiny uniform. But here’s my top tip: take it a few days before. On the actual morning, everyone’s emotions will be running high (and time will be short), so taking the photo in advance means less stress for you and for them.
2. Prepare for Tiredness
Reception is a whole new world of learning, playing, and navigating routines — it’s exhausting! After his first day, Noah fell fast asleep on the sofa before we’d even finished chatting about it. Don’t be surprised if your child is more tired than usual for those first few weeks.
3. Expect Different Emotions (and Surprises!)
Children react in all sorts of ways to big changes. Our eldest was unexpectedly overwhelmed and very emotional on his first day, while our youngest barely looked back at the school gate! Both reactions were valid — just very different. Be ready for anything, and remember that however they respond, it’s okay.
4. Keep Meals Simple
After a busy day, children often just want a cuddle and some calm. Having a few easy, tried-and-tested meals ready can make evenings far less stressful. Less time cooking means more time reconnecting. I even do this now, batch cooking saves me so much time every back to school!
5. Share Snippets of Your Day First
When I used to ask my children, “What did you do today?” the most common answer was: “I can’t remember.” (Sound familiar?) What worked better was sharing little bits about my own day first — what I ate for lunch, who I spoke to, something funny that happened. It opened the door for them to share in return, in their own time.
6. A Heartfelt Reminder
A small gesture can make a big difference. When Orla started reception I ironed a tiny fabric heart into the inside of her cardigan — just a secret reminder that I was thinking of her. You could also draw a heart on their hand or slip a little note in their pocket. These small acts of connection can feel huge to little ones.
7. Talk About Feelings Together
We spent some time before the big day reading The Colour Monster Goes to School. It opened up gentle conversations about what school might feel like, and gave us a safe space to chat about nerves, excitement, or worries. Books can be a brilliant way to help children explore their emotions.
8. Don’t Forget Yourself
And finally — don’t underestimate the emotions you’ll feel. The first drop-off can bring relief, pride, or a wave of sadness (sometimes all three at once!). My advice? Have the kettle on and tissues ready. It’s a big change for us parents, too.
Your Turn…
These are just a few of the things that helped us. Every child — and every family — is different, so take what works for you and leave the rest.
✨ Have you been through Reception before? What tips would you share with parents who are about to start this journey? ✨
Claire